What is Sen's Speed Dating?
Unlike the popular idea of speed dating events, Sen's Speed Dating events are people-focused, not numbers focused. They are designed to be as easy and approachable as possible for people who are shy or who have social anxiety, and most importantly are focused on connection and valuing actual conversations.
How is person-centred Speed Dating different?
In practice, this means the numbers of people you meet in a night are smaller than what many people expect, and the conversations run for longer. We have found the sweet-spot between conversation-fatigue and new-people-overwhelm is a maximum of 10-12 people. This means you can actually remember who you've spoken with and feel like everyone you meet in an evening is still a person - not just another body on the speed-dating conveyor belt.
More like pre-dating than 'speed dating'.
The length of each conversation has also been decided on very carefully after years of trial and error and statistical analysis. Seven minutes is the goldilocks-zone of first conversations. It's long enough so that initial chit-chat wears out (about the five-minute mark) and not so long that it goes on for an eternity if your conversation buddy isn't for you. If you only chat for five minutes you may think there's tonnes to talk about but that initial chit-chat probably only has another minute or two worth of steam left - so you may end up going on a date with someone you don't really have a good vibe with. If at the end of seven minutes you're still happily chatting it means that you're going to be able to talk comfortably for a full 30-minute coffee date and you should say yes to each other and go on a date!
Why Speed Dating?
Speed Dating is a great way to meet new people. It's a dynamic and fun way to tell whether you have chemistry, can hold a conversation and "click". It's about deciding whether or not you would like to go on a full date with someone without any pressure. Plus, you don't just meet new people of the gender you're looking for - there is time before the event kicks off and during intermission, for you to mingle with everyone there - so you can make all sorts of new friends. The idea is you don't have to spend days or weeks talking to someone online only to find out you don't click in person, instead, you can expand your network, meet a whole bunch of new people and know you're going to get along with someone even before your first date and all it costs you is 2 hours and the price of a dinner out.
How does it work?
You arrive and are greeted by the event host who will help you complete your registration.
Then you can get a drink, relax into the event with a few nibbles (on individual plates) and start to meet some of the other attendees.
Dating starts once everyone arrives. Conversations last for 7 minutes and at the end of each conversation, one gender will stand up and move to the next spot. At the end of the 'dates', the host will collect all the 'match cards' with your decisions on them. Matches will be sent out within 48 hours and you take it from there!
The venue is lovely and relaxed so each couple has their own little spot and aren't sitting on top of each other or in a line like an interview.
The capacity is limited to one person per 4 square meters and the seating areas are spaced well over 1.5 meters apart for privacy during the chats and for safe distancing. Couples will be seated 1.5 metres apart from each other too.
Face masks are available for all participants, hand sanitizer will be at every setting, which participants are encouraged to use and sanitize their hands in between each round.
Every person will receive their own folder with their paperwork, own pen, and any other equipment so there is no sharing.
Disposable cups and plates will be used and individual pre-served portions for nibbles will be provided by our on-site chef so there will be no sharing.
Sen events will be following all current government regulations and do our best to maintain participant safety. Additionally, we are registering as a COVID-Safe business so you can rest assured that we will be doing everything possible to keep everyone safe.
Please help us in this by not coming to an event if you are showing symptoms. If you are showing symptoms and have bought a ticket, please contact us to discuss cancellation, refund or transfer of your ticket to a new date as soon as possible (standard cancellation conditions apply).
Each participant will receive their own match card to mark their yes or no answers on. Matches will be done from midday of the following day so no revisions can be made after that point. Matches will be sent out to you with the corresponding contact details within 24 hours of the event concluding.
When to say 'yes' or 'no'?
Tick "YES" if you enjoyed chatting with that person. The 7 minutes should be long enough to tell if you can have a 30-minute conversation and have some level of connection - if that's the case, say "yes!". Go for a coffee and see if you can have a longer chat and take it from there. You can't tell enough about anyone in 7 minutes to tell if they'll be your one true love, all you can tell is if you can chat. Think of it as an audition for a first date.
Don't be a Judgy McJudgerton
Try not to judge the conversation based on whether you have instant chemistry, that's not what this is about. This is about making new connections, building networks and increase your chances of finding love by expanding your social exposure. Many people are very nervous and it's hard to make a good first impression if Speed Dating is way out of your comfort zone, so be kind to the people you're meeting, if they seem awks it's probably because they're nervous.
The SEN philosophy?
Relationships of all kinds take work. They start with a spark of interest and are built by working together to find time for each other, having common interests to create something meaningful. They are not instant. They don't happen in a 5-second decision. They happen by giving people a chance.
SEN's philosophy is that all people have value and all people have something meaningful to contribute to a relationship and that those relationships don't have to be strictly romantic, they can be friendships, complicated friendships, true love. The people that you meet speed dating might not be your true love or might not fit your ideal list or tick all your boxes - but they might be cool and have lots in common and so if you make friends with them then you also have access to their whole friendship network. So speed dating with SEN isn't just about finding someone to date, it's about finding your people.
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What other people are saying...
Superb night! I met some really nice guys. Can't wait to go on some dates! Thanks for putting it on Milly.
- M. Female, 30s
Been to a couple of the mixers and had a really good night, talked to some truly lovely people. After the event we went on to a local pub to listened to a band and partied on. The host makes sure the event is safe and friendly and is helpful in getting people talking with each other.
-- I. Male, 50s
Thanks Milly, great night!
Also some small feedback on the venue - I’d been to a previous speed event of yours at the Depot venue - I found the layout and general feel of the monk venue much more friendly and laid back.
I had a great time at both nights, either way, but figured I’d let you know I liked the change.
-- S. Male, 20s
Was a fun night. Nice people there and nice to meet you as well. The venue was perfect I thought. It was the first time I've tried speed dating but it was good fun and I'd definitely try it again.
-- D. Male, 30s
Very well organised and lovely venue. Really enjoyed it. Thank you :)
Great experience! Thank you :)
Was a tip top night. Enjoyed the experience. Thank you kindly.
I attended a 30-40’s speed dating night back in December, and although nothing eventuated from it, I still had a great time and met some some really nice genuine people. My first thoughts on it all was that it was very well organised, and professionally run in a very relaxed environment.....I look forward to more events as such. And thankyou again Milly for doing a great job.
-- D. Male, 40s
So far I have been to a speed dating event and a singles mixer and have had a great time meeting new people. Milly is an awesome host and always makes everyone feel at ease. I am looking forward to my next singles mixer next week. 😊
-- S. Female, 50s
I'm 29 and I met my gf who is 38 there couldn't recommend this way of meeting a potential partner high enough!
-- K. Male, 20s
Great night out, I had a lot of fun and I would recommend this event for those who enjoy meeting new people. Everyone was friendly and its a good amount of time to work out if you would like to go on a date. Most the men were in the upper end of the age bracket so if I went again I would go the age bracket below. I went on a lovely date with a man I wouldn't have met if I didn't give speed dating a crack so it was definately worth doing.
-- J. Female, 30s
I recently tried the Speed Dating in Newcastle. I had a fun time and met some cool people. Nothing came of it romantically but it was a great way of meeting new people as I'm originally from Sydney. I wouldn't say I'm a chatty person but I felt comfortable enough to converse through the event. I'd do it again. 😀
-- S. Male, 30s
Milly i love your events and love the passion you put into them. please don't stop being an amazing human being!
-- K. Female, 30s